Specialty
Therapy for low self-esteem
You'd never talk to a friend the way you talk to yourself. The achievements get explained away, the mistakes get replayed on a loop, and underneath it all sits a quiet, persistent sense that you are simply not quite enough.
How it tends to show up
Low self-esteem doesn't always look like sadness. Often it looks like overworking to earn a sense of worth that never quite arrives, or staying quiet in rooms where you have something to say. It can hide behind competence, humor, or being endlessly easy to get along with, while privately you're keeping score against a standard nobody actually handed you.
Most of my clients with this pattern are more capable than they give themselves credit for. Other people can usually see it. You're generally the last to know.
Where it comes from
Self-worth is learned, which means it can be relearned.
Nobody arrives at low self-esteem by accident. It's usually built over years, out of the messages you absorbed about what made you worth loving or paying attention to, and the comparisons, criticism, or conditional approval that shaped how you learned to see yourself. What was learned once can be examined, and unlearned now.
In our work together we trace where the inner critic came from, separate its voice from the truth, and practice treating yourself with the same fairness you'd offer anyone else without a second thought. This isn't about forced positivity. It's about a more accurate picture of who you actually are.
Book a Free ConsultationSessions are held by secure telehealth from anywhere in California or Texas. Also see people-pleasing and codependency, which often travel with this pattern.